There’s a couple I’ve known for a few years. We have lots of mutual friends and see each often at various social events. We’re also neighbors. In theory, we could get together on our own, and not just rely on others to get us together. Except there’s one problem. I don’t think the wife likes me. It’s awkward.
The husband –who I’ll call Ben– and I get along really well. We hit it off right away when we met. We work in the same industry, have similar personalities, and seem to find the same things interesting and funny. When we run into each other at our friends’ parties, we always spend lots of time talking, catching up.
And I want to make it clear, Ben’s not flirting with me. Our conversations are lighthearted, fun, and entirely G-rated. Anyone can join in.
It’s different with the wife –Sharon. She’s pleasant to me but a little distant. Chilly, actually. We don’t seem to have that much in common and our personalities are very different. There are lots of silences when we attempt to make the smallest of small talk.
I know better than to hog the attention of another woman’s husband at a party –even though it’s innocent– so I keep trying to draw her into the conversation, but it never really works. I keep trying because I don’t want her to think I’m interested in anything from her husband but fun and interesting conversation.
I don’t do other people’s husbands. Never have. I think it’s wrong…plus, what would I want with a man who cheats? I don’t think a lot of wives know this about me or maybe they just don’t believe me. And, in a way, why should they believe me: lots of women have affairs with married men. Just not me.
Anyway, I ran into this couple the other day at a restaurant near my house. Near theirs house, too. We’re neighbors. After chatting awhile –mostly with the husband, who continued to engage me– I suggested we all get together. Ben agreed it was a good idea and asked for my contact information. Sharon, who hadn’t said much until then, strongly interjected that they could get my informtion from Toni, our mutual friend. Ben pointed out that it might be easier to get it from me since I was right there. Sharon repeated that they’d get it from Toni. I got it. Sharon’s not interested.
So I guess we won’t all get together. This is one of the downsides to being Spinsterlicious. Married women –some, not all– are suspect. They don’t trust us. Too bad. I’m really a nice person who doesn’t want their husbands.
This isn’t the first time something like this has happened. It’s a little annoying because I feel like I’m being accused of something I’m not guilty of. How does one combat this? Geez?
NOTE: Don’t forget to visit The Spinsterlicious Life Shop. They make a statement… and a great gift!
And if you like “Spinsterlicious” and want to be notified of new posts, please subscribe “Via Email” in the box on the right. You’ll receive an email when there’s a new blog post. Or “Like” Spinsterlicious on Facebook. Just click the button at the top of this page. Or “Follow Me” on Twitter (button on the right). Whatever you do, don’t miss a Spinsterlicious update!