The New York Times recently ran an article that explored the concept of renewable marriage contracts, meaning a marriage would “expire” after 5 years or 20 years or whatever the term would be and at the end of the term the couple was free to walk away or renew their marriage. The gist of the article is that marriage is changing: people are getting married later in life and many are choosing not to marry at all; the divorce rate is high, and some are wondering whether marriage is becoming obsolete or, at least undergoing an overhaul.
The article talks about the idea of a marriage contract with an expiration date as merely acknowledging the truth that many marriages just don’t work. Dr. Virginia Rutter of Framingham University in Massachusetts believes in “eliminating the fantasy of marriage.”
So it got me to thinking whether I would have been more inclined to marry one (or some) of my exes, if I had to do it for only 5 years…maybe 10. I kinda think so. The main reason I never married any of the guys who wanted to marry me is that it didn’t really feel like forever to me. But if it was only going to be for a few years, well, that might have been a little more do-able.
So, I ask my married/divorced/widowed readers for their thoughts on this. How would your marriage have been impacted if you entered it not with the ’til death do us part assumption, but with an expiration date, let’s say 15 years?
And to the spinsters like me, what are your thoughts? Would a marriage contract with term limits make getting married easier, harder, or wouldn’t matter?