Category Archives: spinsterlicious

(Why) Is “Spinster” A Four-Letter Word?

  I am a single woman with no kids. I’ve been that way all my life. It’s by choice, so it’s a fine place to be. Eons ago, I would have been called a spinster. Or an old maid.  Old Maid sounds much too heavy, plus I’m reminded of the card game of the same name … Continue reading

Posted in Divorce Envy, Huffington Post, Single, spinster, spinsterlicious, unmarried | 11 Comments

Mother’s Day on Steroids: A Contrarian View

  Over the past couple of years it’s been clear to me that holidays have become of monumental importance in the American culture. Christmas—December 25—is an entire season. When I was a kid, talk of Christmas began a week or two before the big day.  Not anymore.  A few years ago, stores began to trot out … Continue reading

Posted in childfree, elaborate gifts, holiday celebrations, Mother's Day, spinsterlicious | 14 Comments

How Can I Be Happily Single When I Hate Being Single?

  The Spinsterlicious Life –the title of my book and blog— is about the joys and realities of being a single woman.  Whether a woman is single by choice or by circumstance, a great life should be hers.  The time spent fretting about what you don’t have (a man) would be much better spent celebrating what … Continue reading

Posted in dating, Dr Phil, Happily single, I hate being single, spinsterlicious | 38 Comments

Divorce Envy

Sometimes I am jealous of divorced women. Oh, not for the reason you might think; not because they’ve had at least one husband and I’ve had none. I feel jealous of divorced women because they have more social capital than I do. They exist on a higher rung on society’s status ladder than I do because … Continue reading

Posted in dating, divorced women, Huffington Post, Single, spinster, spinsterlicious | 15 Comments

What’s Wrong With Separate Bedrooms?

  A couple of weeks ago I ruined an almost-date.  I was standing in line waiting to go into an event when a guy standing behind me, struck up a conversation.  We chatted for quite awhile and eventually got around to his divorce.  I don’t recall the details but I do recall his look of horror … Continue reading

Posted in being single, Dr Phil, Going Solo, Oprah, separate bedrooms, spinsterlicious | 39 Comments

Making Adventure Part of Your Routine

I think it’s important –from time to time– to do something outside your normal routine, out-of-the-ordinary, something a little adventurous.  Here’s a story about one of my favorite adventures:  Excerpted from The Spinsterlicious Life: 20 Life Lessons for Living Happily Single and Childfree.  Copyright 2011.  All rights reserved. Lesson 2: Indulge yourself! Romance. Sex. Adventure. I like being … Continue reading

Posted in dating, Greenwich Village, Mehmet Oz, Single, spinsterlicious | 8 Comments

Ten Reasons Why I Love Lucy

It’s Women’s History Month and so to celebrate, I’m paying homage to a woman I admire. Lucille Ball was my favorite comedienne before I really even understood what a comedienne was. What I knew was that she was the pretty, funny lady who brought joy and laughter to my entire family every day. The I Love … Continue reading

Posted in I Love Lucy, Lucille Ball, spinsterlicious, Women's History Month | 2 Comments

The New Single Girl?

Minted is a new online magazine that empowers women in their careers and lives. They’re running an article in the Spring issue on The New Single Girl featuring ME!  (Click here, to read it; you’ll have to scroll over to page 58). After reading it, I’d love to hear your thoughts.  Please come back to The … Continue reading

Posted in eleanore wells, Minted Magazine, spinsterlicious, The New Single Girl | 6 Comments

The Best Relationship Advice I Ever Got

Actually, this story I’m about to tell is probably not about the best relationship advice I’ve ever gotten, but it is certainly about my favorite relationship advice.  It still makes me smile. Several years ago, a guy I was dating decided to break up with me two days before a big party he was throwing.  I … Continue reading

Posted in getting over heartbreak, good advice, spinsterlicious | 18 Comments

Are Single People Happier?

As you probably know, talking about living alone/being alone/being single is hot right now.  It seems that not a day goes by that I don’t see or hear this topic being discussed on TV, in newspapers and magazines, and all over the Twitterverse. Sometimes it’s discussed in a way that I appreciate: affirming, celebratory even.  Still, … Continue reading

Posted in single vs married happiness, spinsterlicious, The Washington Post | 15 Comments

A Woman and Her Six Husbands

The other day, I saw a guy on TV who was promoting his new book, “The Six Husbands Every Woman Should Have.”  I stopped what I was doing to have a look and listen.  Geez, if I’d known I should have six husbands, marriage might have been more appealing to me.  It was the whole finding-one-and-till-death-do-us-part … Continue reading

Posted in multiple husbands, spinsterlicious, The Six Husbands Every Woman Should Have | 14 Comments

Dating Young. How Low Can You Go?

So Demi and Ashton are finished.  They hung in there for six years which is about 4 more than I thought they would.  She’s 16 years older than he is.  I wish I had faith in these kinds of relationships, but I don’t.  Not for marriage.  I think she should have kept him for a Boy … Continue reading

Posted in Biggie Smalls, cougars, dating younger men, Demi and Ashton, Diana Ross, I'm Coming Out, Linda Hogan, Mary Kay Letourneau, Mo' Money Mo' Problems, Puffy, spinsterlicious | 7 Comments

Love in Turks & Caicos

I spent last week on the beach in Turks & Caicos, a beautiful island in the Caribbean.  I was there for my friend, A’s, wedding.  I happily turned it into my winter vacation. I loved knowing that, while I lay at the pool in 80 degree weather, there was a little snow on the ground in … Continue reading

Posted in destination weddings, spinsterlicious, The Conch Shack, Turks and Caicos | 3 Comments

The Extraordinary Rise and Surprising Appeal of Living Alone

As long as I’ve been an adult, I’ve loved living alone.  I got my first apartment shortly after college.  It was a cute little studio apartment that had very little furniture: a bed frame and mattress, a table set, and a tv that sat on milk crates.  It was like heaven to me. I’ve had roommates … Continue reading

Posted in being single, Eric Klinenberg, Going Solo, living alone, solo living, spinsterlicious | 31 Comments