I’m not anti-marriage. In fact, I think marriage can be something really great…when it’s right. And I guess that’s the thing. It seems really hard. I think it was Bryant Gumbel, during a recent stint co-hosting The View, who said a person has to “really, really, really want to be married for it to work.” (Two of those “reallys” are actually mine). And I’ve never really, really, really wanted to.
So, take now, for instance. I’m not in a serious relationship but I am seeing someone. He’s a nice guy…a great guy in fact (who I hope doesn’t read blogs). So, though I’m not in love, I am enjoying what we have. So why am I trying to mess it up? Well, I’m not really trying to mess it up but here’s what happened. At a friend’s dinner party, I met her friend who is interesting, funny, cute…and single. So I decided I wanted to go out with him. As we were making plans to get together, I remembered “the other guy”. Later I became a bit ferklempt: why am I sniffing around this man when I have something else nice going on? Geez.
I’ve always done this…but I’m not a young’un anymore. Why am I still acting like it? Shouldn’t I be trying to settle down?
I asked my girlfriend that very question. She just laughed. “Honey, you’re just not wired that way. Do your thing”. So…I am.
What do you think? Should a “woman of a certain age” stop dating around and start settling in?