Part-Time Lovers: The Next New Thing?

It’s been interesting to me the way being single has become such a popular topic over the past couple of years.  The US Census and Pew Report (among many others) reported on the growing number of singles and the decline in the marriage rate, and websites, Meet-up groups, books, news articles and tv shows sprung up, all coming at it from various angles but usually falling into two camps: how to be single and how not to be single.

One of my fellow spinsters sent me a link to an article about a website that kinda falls in the middle of being-single-while-not-being-single.  (Thanks, Nissa!) This site purportedly pairs up people who are looking for Part-Time Love,  “people who want to be independent but also want to fall in love.”

My first reaction (as a woman who works in the marketing business) was

“What an interesting marketing ploy”…primarily because this seems kinda newsworthy, but really isn’t.  I mean, what does that really look like?  How is it different from being the chick (or guy) on the side or an elevated booty call?  Besides, being independent and being in love are not mutually exclusive.

The site talks calls itself a “no-strings website”, which sounds to me like a place where one goes for hook-ups.  This doesn’t sound like a place where someone goes to find love.  But it also describes itself as being for people “who are set in there ways and may find it difficult to adapt, domestically, to a new partner.”  And then I laughed because I get that part; it sounds a bit like me.  When I’m in a relationship, I always prefer to spend more time at his place than mine because I don’t like people moving my stuff.

imagesI think it’s incumbent on each couple to figure out the parameters of their relationship on their own.  A website that attracts “weekend lovers” seems like a bit of a slippery slope to me if you’re looking for the love part.

What about you?  Would you be attracted to a site like this?

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2 Responses to Part-Time Lovers: The Next New Thing?

  1. Nissa says:

    I’ve been thinking about this. Moving into a friends with benefits relationship just feels like giving up, like saying “I don’t believe I can have a relationship where the person actually is open to the possibility of having more with me”. I miss the physical terribly, but I know myself too well. Opening the physical means I am opening my heart too, and I know better than to open my heart to someone before he even knows if he likes me.

  2. Rachel says:

    Reading the actual CNN article you linked to, I am intrigued because the site seems to attempt to create a space for relationships somewhere between single and coupled.

    They say that they are *not* a no-strings website. It sounds more like a non-escalator relationship than a hook-up…

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