About a year ago, a guy I often see while walking my dog said to me, somewhat apologetically, that he thinks “women who’ve never been married are kinda sad” . I chuckled…until I realized he was serious. He’s going through a divorce so I decided to cut him some slack. I merely asked him if he knew any sad married people (other than himself and his soon-to-be ex-wife).
But that was last year, and I was starting to assume that people were beginning to show some progress in this area. But I was wrong. My new doctor –who is younger than I am and should know better– spent too much time “counseling” me that I need to get married so I can have a family to share my life with. I patiently explained to him that I already have a family that I share my life with. What are my brother, sister, sister-in-law, nieces, nephews, and cousins if they’re not my family?
When will it sink in to people that not being married does not equal alone in the world? It doesn’t mean sad, it doesn’t mean a small life. I thought of several Spinsters we all know who I think have pretty great lives. Here’s a few that come to mind right away:
These women are anything but sad. I know…they’re all celebrities so they’re not like you and me, right? Well, you don’t have to be a celebrity to be a Spinster with a pretty great life. There’s this lady.
And there’s the readers of this blog. And I’ll bet you can think of more than a few Spinsters –famous or not– who you admire (and who aren’t sad). Who are they?