I first ran this post last January. It’s still on my mind: where do women who are too old for the clubs meet men? The same friend I mention, below, who is still Nameless is compiling a list: so far, hardware stores and stores that sell computers and electronics are high on her list.
After I ran this post last year, I received two nasty emails: one from a man who thought I was “ridiculous and pathetic”, and a woman who said “she’s glad she’s not me”. I’m not offended when weirdos who don’t know me say stuff like that, but I was curious then and now as to why this particular post was so offensive to them?
So here’s the post; still relevant…
Last Saturday night, I found myself prowling the streets in search of food, drink, fun, and maybe even a guy. I wasn’t alone, but my dear friend, Nameless, who was with me hated it so much she won’t allow me to use her name…not even her initials. Here’s what happened. I invited her to a comedy show where a guy I knew was performing. However, I screwed up the details and so we found ourselves all dressed up with nowhere to go. Actually, we weren’t all dressed up; we were dressed pretty casually. If we had been all dressed up, we would have had more options.
Anyway, we tried to think of where we could go for a little fun, but we had a few criteria: good food, good drinks, inviting atmosphere, and a few grown-up guys we could flirt with without feeling like pedophiles. There are tons of places in NYC that fit the first few criteria, but the last one is what stumped us.
We weren’t dressed cute enough to go to a few of the fancy places we thought of and I was sure that, if we tried, they’d hand us an apron and tray instead of directing us to the bar area. So, we thought of a few second-tier locales, but when we got to each of them it was a let-down: no grown men inside and not a lot of fun going on. After the 4th or 5th place, we were starting to weary. Plus it was cold!
So here’s the question: where do grown-ups hang out? Where can women of a certain age who are looking for a little action find men of a certain age? We’re not going to the club. Those days are done. So where? It’s wintertime so we must be especially strategic because desirable people aren’t just out-and-about in this weather. The relationship I was in ended recently and so I’m back on the block, hoping to stumble across a gentleman who wants to spend a little time in my Spinsterlicious company. When I was young(er), this hunt was fun. That night, it felt ridiculous. Which is why Nameless insists on remaining that way.
I think I’m going to make that my new mission: finding respectable places where I’m not embarrassed to be seen standing at the bar, flirting with the fellas (older fellas, not young’uns), and having a laugh. I’m just not sure where that place is…but I intend to find out! I’m open to all suggestions; tell me what you know!
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