I think online dating is fantastic, in theory. In practice it’s a lot more tricky. When online dating first appeared, it had a stigma attached. It was weird. Creepy even. I recall that a handsome successful guy I knew was doing it when online dating was in its infancy and I remember thinking “what’s wrong with him”? Online dating back then was so new and different that most people didn’t quite know what to make of it. (Some still don’t.)
But then it became rather normal. I joined a site or three and came to really like it. I liked that these sites gave me the opportunity to meet a lot of interesting and fun guys who I would never have encountered in my ordinary travels. What I liked most was that online dating was still new enough that only guys who were looking for a serious relationship were using it. I met several long-ish term boyfriends that way
That’s all changed now. Online dating sites are filled with all kinds of people: the serious, the-not-serious, the curious, the-not-really-available, clowns, and guys who just make stuff up. It’s not fun anymore.
And the sites aren’t helping. They all pretend to send you “good matches” that are right for you, but it’s clear they know nothing about me. My profile says what I’m looking for, and what characteristics I desire. (And, no, I’m not asking for a lot). Judging by the so-called Matches they send to me, it is clear that whoever is making this decision (it’s probably automated) can’t or won’t read.
Match.com, daily, recommended for me matches to men who indicated they wanted a white woman. I’m not white. OKCupid.com keeps suggesting guys who are looking for women in an age range that is not mine or who want to have kids…which I don’t. It’s starting to feel a little scam-ish.
So, I’m tired. I don’t need to spend my time online sorting thru men I don’t want to go out with…and who don’t really want to go out with me.
I do still think online dating can be cool. One of my friends married a great lady last year who he met online. Another is engaged to a woman he met online, and a girlfriend is in a serious relationship with a guy she met online a few months ago…so it’s not all bad…I may return…but right now these online sites who pretend to help but really don’t can
suck it go fly a kite.
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