While here, I had the good fortune to do two readings and signings for my book, The Spinsterlicious Life: 20 Life Lessons for Living Happily Single and Childfree, one at the private home of a dear and generous friend, the other at the Oak Bluffs Public Library.
Whenever I’m doing an event where I’m reading from my book, I like to engage the audience by having them share their stories. A very popular topic of discussion is what the single women in attendance enjoy about being single. Regardless of whether they’re single by choice or happenstance, there’s usually something good about it.
One of my favorite new stories was told just the other day. A woman, let’s called her Alice, spoke about how she used to hate coming home to an empty house when she first got divorced. It was too quiet. There was no one to ask her about her day or “what’s for dinner.” Soon enough she realized that she didn’t mind that there was no one to ask her about dinner because she also realized that sometimes she didn’t feel like cooking dinner. Or cooking a dinner that her husband would eat because there were some foods that he just wouldn’t touch.
The day Alice realized that being single was going to work out just fine was the day she came home from the farmer’s market with a bagful of broccoli rabe. You see, broccoli rabe is her very favorite vegetable…but her husband wouldn’t eat it. Throughout their 13-year marriage, Alice tried to keep things uncomplicated by only cooking foods they both enjoyed, so she never cooked broccoli rabe.
But now he’s gone. And she cooks her favorite vegetable whenever she wants…which is pretty often. And that’s one of the things she has come to love about being single. The freedom to cook whatever the @&$# she wants for dinner!
It’s the little things that matter, right? What about you? What little thing can you think of that makes being single a good thing for you?